If you’re new to this blog, you should probably start here.
Let me explain where I’ve been. In 2014, I took a job that required my attention 24 hours a day/7 days a week. Even when I wasn’t there, I was thinking about it, answering calls, considering my next move. But, I didn’t mind so much because I really liked the job.
I quit that job in January, sadly. And, it’s taken me some time to get over things. Leaving a job you enjoy is like leaving a bad relationship. Isn’t there some algorithm for getting over a relationship? One month per year? I was there for 18 months, so…carry the two… Whatever. You do the math. I can’t.
In a bad relationship, when you’re the person who cares and the other could give a rat’s ass, it just never works. In my case, it was like being in love with someone who simply didn’t see me, and in fact, had a habit of shouting out someone else’s name when I was the one offering up the feels. (I bet the above link for “shouting out someone else’s name” wasn’t at all what you expected. Nothing naughty here, folks.)
I had some great wins—I was really proud of much of the work I accomplished–but in the end I was becoming a crazy person because I just didn’t fit in with the culture there. I kept trying to change things until I finally figured out it would always be the way it was.
And the way it was? It works for many others; it just wasn’t for me.
Now, I’m back with my old love, in an industry I’ve known for years. I’m working with people I’ve trusted and respected for decades. They wooed me—honestly this is turning into too much like a romance novel—and I finally said yes when I fully recognized that my current situation would never be what I envisioned.
A friend recently did something similar to what I’ve done—took a job only to go back to her original job again. She told me it’s called “boomeranging.” And, just this past weekend, I met with a former colleague who also left his job only to return about 18 months later. This employee-boomerang trend is actually affecting the job market and putting more competition on new job seekers, and for good reason. It’s smart for employers to maintain solid relationships with former employees who are likely to remain loyal to or even nostalgic about your company. Those former employees need very little training and already understand the corporate culture. It’s smart for former employees to maintain some semblance of respect for former employers as well. You never know what they might offer you to come back.
If you’re an old employer of mine? Please ignore all the links above, except for this one that shows the time and cost savings associated with rehiring former workers. But then again, a brand sticks. There’s no going back.
Now, before you start sharing articles about how Millennials bounce from job to job, I’d like to remind you I’m talking about Gen X’ers here. This is not a Millennial phenomenon.
Those two words together are awesome to say aloud. Millennial Phenomenon.
If you’re unhappy, for whatever reason, there’s nothing wrong with choosing to go back to the thing that makes you happiest. If I didn’t believe that, I’d never be married to Groom. And I love being with Groom.
These days, I’m in a stable job filled with trust and respect. It’s lovely, but it’s only 40 hours a week.
So, here I am. Posting again. In terms of my health, to put the past two years in a nutshell, I comfort-ate through my entire tenure with my old job. I weigh more than I ever want to admit. I haven’t been working out. And, I lost my sense of humor. But, I’m back, baby. And, I’ll be talking about my quest to get fit, eat right, and be a better person.
After just more grilled cheese and a bag of these potato chips. But that’s it. I swear.